(if there are any), and physically grounding a sub in reality, while also emotionally stabilising them and checking in to make sure they’re really okay. Aftercare is basically an act that will be slightly different for each scene but basically involves tending any bruises/scrapes etc. Okay so let’s talk about aftercare, which really helps to ameliorate subdrop for most people. Gwyn is written as a character who is prone to dropping pretty hard, which is why Augus makes him blood-oath to accept aftercare. His guilt, shame, self-loathing and general sense that nothing is okay is all a consequence of him dropping pretty hard, and he wouldn’t have gone through something nearly so unpleasant if he’d been able to let Augus administer aftercare immediately. Gwyn actually experiences a fairly classical manifestation of subdrop in Game Theory at the end of the chapter Break and throughout much of Aftercare. It is more likely to happen with inexperienced/neglectful doms who stop too quickly, or walk away, or don’t care about aftercare. Going from trust and euphoria to ‘society thinks I’m sick and gross for being this way’ really sucks.ĭrop can happen at the end of a healthy, great scene, and it can also happen if a scene is stopped abruptly. Some people may even feel guilty or ashamed of what happened, or what they enjoyed, and may be particularly prone to feeling the pain of societal stigma re: kink during this time. Some people get depressed, sad, upset, or feel lonely, disconnected and often - very needy for connection, intimacy and (usually) touch. Part of it is physiological (the parasympathetic nervous system kicking back in again, and chemical/hormone production re-regulating), part of it is psychological, there can be sadness associated with leaving a warm, safe space, or not having access to that euphoria or complete trust in the day to day. Generally speaking, sustaining that massive chemical rush that comes from sub-space leads to a bit of an emotional and physiological crash afterwards. Subdrop is sometimes just referred to as ‘drop/dropping’ such as: ‘I’m dropping pretty hard right now.’ Since all trance states are temporary, and everyone has to return to reality eventually, the sometimes-partner to subspace is subdrop (though this doesn’t happen every time - some subs have never experienced it, some often do - and it’s one of the many reasons why aftercare is such a necessary part of any scene). Some feel it’s a spiritual high point, and attach spiritual meanings to the feeling of transcendence that came come with it. It’s often triggered by sustained pain-play, and some subs will talk about not being able to focus properly, whole-body buzzing sensations, warmth and ‘floatiness’, feeling serene. Even things like safe-wording can become difficult, because a connection to words might not be there. ![]() Some subs can get there quickly, others can’t get there at all, and whenever it happens it’s absolutely crucial that you’re with someone you trust implicitly. With a dom / top that one trusts, subspace is generally meant to be pretty amazing. Now let’s talk about this all a bit more, so I can also talk about subdrop and aftercare. impairment of rational thinking and decision making skills (think of someone being pretty drunk). a mild-to-severe limitation of communication abilities a disconnection from time, space and reality It is essentially a form of trance state. ![]() ![]() the body being flooded by endorphins, adrenaline, enkephalin and epinephrine leading to the above, as well as a state which is generally considered a natural high, with emotions like euphoria, intense love, affection, connection, intimacy etc. heightened resistance to pain (and often a poorly engaged sense of one’s own pain thresholds or understanding of when damage is being done, so the dom has to be extremely switched on while it happens) ![]() Subspace (submissive-space / submission-space) is an alternate state of consciousness that is generally recognised as a form of dissociation or a dissociative state which is characterised by: I am definitely not an expert on subspace, but I’ll tell you what I know (we’re also going to talk about aftercare, and the sometimes-companion of subspace known as subdrop):
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